Fashion Friday – Tunics!

Cents of Style has tunics on sale today – 3/24!  To get the sale price:

The code is TOPSTORY and it will make each tunic $19.95 + FREE SHIPPING. The code is valid 3/24 – 3/26.  They come in two styles, and in a huge rainbow of colors AND they come in sizes ranging from 0-18!

How to Wear:
*Date Night! Dress up with skinny jeans and heels, carry your favorite clutch and you are ready for a night out!
*Saturday Sports! Pair with your go-to boyfriend jeans and a light jacket, throw on your favorite hat, and head to out to watch the game in style.
*Errands/Carpool/PTA: Your favorite distressed jeans need a comfy companion as you run around town. Pair with your most comfortable sneakers and look darling all day long.
*Sunday Brunch/Lunch with the Girls: Your favorite sandals & cardigan for a light layer will finish this outfit in style.

Click below for a neat little video on how to wear tunics!


It has been so hard to blog lately.  I normally try to get a post written while on my lunch break, but with having to leave early so many days because of Jonathan’s games/practices – I’m typically working through lunch.   

Jonathan started baseball in late February, and each week has been filled with practices & games.  I cannot even tell you the last time I cooked on my actual stove – which is crazy, because I cook a lot.  We switched weekends with their dad too, so we got a little screwy with dates.  It will all work out, and I know on Sunday I will be able to cook again!  

Jake’s house is still for sale.  We have had several showings and people interested, but no offers yet.  It is frustrating to see other homes sell so quickly (my brothers sold last weekend in 3 days).  But we have to keep reminding ourselves that everything is in God’s time.  A friend suggested we “bury the saint” in the front yard, so we did that the other night will shivering our behinds off.  We buried Saint Joseph and said a prayer and we’ll see.   

We have a contingency contract on a beautiful home that we fell in love with.  With the contingency, we HAVE to sell Jake’s house before we can do anything.  We cannot carry 2 mortgages, so…we wait.  All the loan approvals, inspections, etc have all come through and have been done.  We just wait.  It has been hard and I haven’t mentioned it much on facebook.  It is a stressor for sure on both of us, I think Jake handles it better than I do.  Just know that as soon as we sign the closing papers, I will share tons of photos and everything.  We just love this house so much, and want it so bad!

Wedding planning is going well – I picked out what our flowers are going to be and need to get them ordered in April.   I was able to pick up my dress last weekend, and its safely tucked away in its garment bag in Jake’s closet.  He has strict orders not to peek, but he has repeatedly said he does not want to see the dress until I walk down the aisle in it.  I hope he isn’t disappointed!

Becoming Mrs. Carey – decisions-decisions

Wedding planning is not for the faint of heart – for sure.   Everytime I turn around, I think of another decision I have to make.  eeekkk!!

I think we have a pretty good start on stuff – We have a date…haha.   We actually booked a venue right after Christmas.  Its so pretty, and I wrote about it in another blog post here – Palmetto CollegiateWe booked a DJ too (woo hoo Ronny!), and I have my wedding dress.

I met with & booked our photographer, and I could not be more thrilled about it! I am looking forward to working with Andrea Fabian from Trevor Mercer Photography.   Trevor has shot a few weddings at our venue, so I know he can give Andrea some great insight.  She also is a USC grad and after our initial meeting, I felt so at ease with her.  I look forward to having her around that day as I get ready, and throughout the day.  

I have sent out emails for catering, and have a general idea in my head of what we want for food. Think southern fare y’all – for those that live close to Lexington, I have 1 word for you – Shealy’s.  We are still debating that though, so don’t get too happy.  However, if you want to go to Shealy’s – I’m happy to go with anyone who wants to make the drive!    

I have some solid idess on flowers & decorations, thanks to Pinterest and the last dozen or so events I have worked at Seibel’s House.  We have a color scheme as well, which we needed in order to get the bridesmaids dresses (navy & blush pink if you are wondering)

 I’m trying to not worry about the rehearsal dinner, and just letting Jake worry with that.  Same with what the guys are wearing (and who the guys even are!).  Its hard though, because I just want to nail down decisions like…right now. Grooms cake?  Yep, not even thinking about that at all either.  Of course every time I see the words “grooms cake” all I think about is this scene from Steel Magnolias:

 “It’s repulsive! It’s got gray icing! I can’t even begin to think how you make gray icing!  Worse the cake part is red velvet cake. Blood red!! People are gonna be hackin’ into this poor animal that looks like it’s bleedin’ to death.”
We are going to be ordering the invitations this weekend, and my matron of honor Laura graciously volunteered to help me with those.    Those are a bit more formal than our fun Save the Dates.  They also play off our color scheme, and one of my favorite bible verses.

I feel like everything is coming together, its just with all the house stuff,  Jonathan playing baseball and work – I feel a little crazy sometimes.  I feel like I make a lot of lists, which can be a good & bad thing.  The list helps slow the crazy some though!



I wish I could start out this blog with good news about a house, but alas – not this week.  We are praying so much for the family who has come to look at it earlier in the week.  We know they love the house, so we are praying hard that the time is right for them to make an offer (because PLEASE!!!).  

Tomorrow starts the crazy that is baseball in our household.  I printed out the schedule yesterday and put it on my wall at work.  We meet with Jonathan’s baseball team 5 times a week usually, 3 practices and 2 games.  Lots of crock-pot meals are going to be happening, because this mama is not going to do a ton of fast-food or take-out!   His first game is tomorrow and I am so excited for him!   His dad has taken him to his last 2 practices, and J told me last night that he was going to get to play 2nd or center field.  

Tonight I work a wedding rehearsal at Seibels House.  The wedding season has begun and its about to get busy.  I love all the brides I get to work with, and recently got back in touch with one of my most favorite brides.  She has given me some catering pointers!  I work a lot this month, which is good – we have a wedding to finish paying for!

Tomorrow after Jonathan’s game, we are going to the Craftsman Classic Craft Show.  I won tickets from a local website, so I figured why not.  There is a metal works person there from Michigan, so Jake is interested in seeing what that person has.   Then at some point this weekend we need to go over our invitations and go ahead and order them.   

Sunday, it is church (we missed last week) and then BASEBALL!   We are going to the Carolina-Clemson baseball game and I am so excited.  I am bummed we won’t get to go to Greenville to see the teams play at Fluor Field, but maybe next year.

We are going to be busy, but as Jake told me the other night “we do well with busy”

Happy Friday y’all!


a letter to her.

A letter to my fiancee’s ex-wife.


Outside of knowing my name, you don’t know me.  I’m good with that, you have no reason to know me. We run in different circles of friends, and work in vastly different industries.  I know that you see glimpses of Jake & I on facebook, since we have mutual friends.  I know you hear bits and pieces of our life trickled through to you from people who don’t have any involvement in our lives.  I’m sorry that people feel the need to tell you about things that happen in our lives, because it’s honestly none of their business.

In the same way that you don’t know me, I don’t know you really either.  I have been face to face with you once, and even then you wouldn’t turn to look at me as I spoke to you.   I have seen glimpses of you in the last year, as your divorce to Jake became final.  I hear bits and pieces of stories that Jake tells, and I understand that I am only hearing one side of the story – his side.  And that’s okay too, I don’t need your side as it doesn’t affect my life in any way.   I know this isn’t how you wanted things to turn out when you got married.  No one gets married thinking “well, I’m going to get divorced in five years”.  You may love him, you may hate him now – I don’t know and that’s not really my business to know I guess.  I know at some point you did love him enough to marry him.  Thank you for loving him for the years you did before all the bad happened.

Now to the real reason for writing this letter.  When you text Jake, you don’t see the ripple of anxiety that goes through me.  The way my fingers start to go numb as I feel a panic attack beginning to rise from inside me.   When you call – the same thing happens.  Its not because I don’t trust Jake, I do. Its because I don’t trust you.  I tell Jake all the time that I feel like we will never be fully rid of you, and despite his assurances that we will – you seem to keep popping up.  I’m not telling you this because I think you need to know something about us, I’m telling this because I am asking you to please respect yourself enough to walk away.

Last night you texted, and then called for what will be the final time.  It’s over, there is nothing left for you here.  For you, there is no reason to contact Jake – again there is nothing left for you here.  We have moved on.  We have a life to build, and children to raise.   I will continue to pray for you, as I have for the last year. I pray that you find the peace you need to move on.  I pray that you will find happiness in the same way that Jake has.

I hope that in your life there is beauty from ashes, in the same way that something beautiful happened for he and I.







if you’re the praying type

I have always prayed, since I was a kid.  It was taught in Sunday school, and church and youth group (again at church) and well – it was everywhere.

Sometimes its a quick “Lord, please help me get through this day” and sometimes I will spend the entire time I’m in the shower praying fervently for 10-15 minutes (however long it takes me that day).  As I fall asleep at night, same thing.  I woke up in the middle of the night on Saturday night and for the life of me, could not go back to sleep.  So I prayed.  I prayed for God to watch over friends in Virginia, and name after name popped into my head – even people I haven’t thought of in a long time.  One thing that stands out in my mind from youth group when it comes to praying is “ACTS” – it was sort of a guideline to prayer.  A – Adoration, C – Confession, T – Thanksgiving, S – Supplication.   The first being a time to adore our father, and all the wondrous things he has done for us.  The second being a time for confession, and asking god to forgive us for our sins.  Third, thanksgiving – thanking him for all the things he has done for us.  Lastly, supplication, asking God “for stuff” (lack of a better way to put it).  I think sometimes people focus more on that last part, versus the other 3 parts.  After learning about the “ACTS” – I don’t think I have ever prayed in any other way, I always follow this format.  (thanks Rutledge family for teaching us this!)

We have a prayer list in our Sunday school class, and this Sunday we wrote “house stuff – of course”.  We have been trying to sell Jake’s house since November 28th – we just didn’t think it would take this long or be this hard.  We knew listing it between holidays was a bit dicey, but we didn’t have a thing to lose.  Houses in his neighborhood typically have been selling within 2-3 months.  We are about to hit that 3 month mark and we are both starting to worry – a lot.   Last week we finalized the offer on a house that would be perfect for our family.  Its beautiful, and in the right price range and schools.  It has 4 bedrooms AND a bonus room.  It has a cool backyard and an office.  It fits us, it has room for the kids, and room for maybe 1 more.   It has a 2 car garage, and it is honestly exactly what we have been looking for.  The only catch – we have to sell Jake’s house.  We had to do a contingency contract and that’s terrifying.  Needless to say Jake and I worry, a lot.  I think sometimes I worry more than him, because his typical response to me is “we will figure it out, we always do” (and in some ways, he is right – we always work it out).

The Bible says a lot about worry.  Matthew 6:33-34 says  But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

True, we need to seek god first, and not worry about tomorrow.  But wow, how hard is that.  I once told my mama that I wouldn’t be me if I wasn’t  worrying about something!  I now spend most of my days in this almost literal constant state of prayer.  I refer a lot to my bible and passages that calm me (along with a good dose of essential oils).  Some of my favorite verses are: Phillipans 4:6, which says  “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” and Ephesians 6:18 which says And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.”
  We have talked a great deal in Sunday School lately about praying for our neighbors.  When our teacher David asked “what does it mean when Jesus says love your neighbors” – one of our friends in class said “neighbor means anyone but yourself”.  So please remember that I am praying for all of you, whether we are friends in real life or not.   We all need to cast our cares & situations upon god, and let him sustain us through everything.  That is exactly what Jake and I are trying to do.    I know that in every situation stuff happens in God’s time, not our time.   I guess my reason for writing this long post was that it was something that was on my heart to talk about.  But also to ask, that if you can please say a prayer or two for us and the whole house situation.

Tuesday Topics – Love

Today’s Tuesday Topic is love.  4 things I love!   

Of course, the top 4 things I love are my kiddos Katie, Jonathan & Natalee and my fiancee Jake.  

However, I’m going to talk about some of the other things I love with a passion!

College Sports – if I had to rank them in order, it would be Football,  Baseball/Softball then Basketball.
– We are season ticket holders for South Carolina Gamecock football.  We plan on going to a bunch of baseball games, and most likely will be season ticket holders for baseball next year (2018 season).   I am the woman who reads stats & articles, and can actually follow a football game (and a baseball game).  I don’t just pretend to know whats going on, I actually GET it.

Essential Oils – I have been a distributor for Young Living for 2 years and have steadily moved up in ranks.  I have a team of amazing women who share this huge insane love for oils.  We use them to help us sleep at night, to help us get through our days (energy, focus) and for overall wellness.  

Locally owned restaurants – We love trying out new places to eat, but we try to save it as once or twice a month date night kind of thing.  We are trying to buy a house, so we are saving as much as we can.  We love locally owned restaurants.  We have tried quite a few in Lexington, and some are hits and some are definite misses!  We so have two “chains” that we love, but its a local chain and that’s San Jose Mexican.  Each is owned by one member of the same family, and they are located all over Lexington & Columbia.  We also recently discovered Egg’s Up, which started as a local place and slowly became a chain across the southern region.   

Country Music – Music is an obsession of mine, and always has been.  I have this uncanny ability to hear a song once and remember all the lyrics.  Give me a few times of hearing it and chances are I can sing the entire thing.  Here is one of my favorite songs sung by one of my favorite bands – Zac Brown Band singing “Free & Into the Mystic” with Clare Bowen.



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As a special bonus, if you sign up through me and spend at least $25 in shop, you’ll get a 200 SB bonus!  Since I signed up for them, I have paid for 2 Christmas’s worth of gifts with the gift cards I have received, plus some to Target!