This past week my brother deployed, along with the husbands of a few friends from our days as a Marine Corps family. The day he left and the day before, my heart ached. Not for me or my kids, or my parents – but for my sister in law and nephew. As a Marine Corps wife of a husband who deployed twice – on the same type deployment – I understand what she is going through. I can with all honesty, I know what she is going through. Word of advice, don’t ever tell a Marine wife (or any military wife) that you feel her pain, unless you have been there, done that like she has. I once had someone tell me that they understood how I felt because they were a single parent as well (through divorce, not deployment). I in very plain terms told them they had no idea what I was going through, along with a sprinkle of profanity hung up on them. It was my wedding anniversary and I was none too happy to have someone tell me they understood, when they didn’t have a clue!
Someone asked me once why I tear up when I see a family reuniting with their service member on the news, or watching a family wave goodbye to their Marine, Sailor or Soldier. It’s because I know the emotions, I know the fear, the anxiety and the uncertainty. Once you’ve been through a deployment, you never forget those emotions. They may fade, and sometimes you may forget – but a simple image can bring it all flooding back. Once you’ve been in those shoes, you would understand. Marine wives are a tough lot, and I am so incredibly proud to be one of those wives. There are days I wake up and cannot believe that Matt has been out for almost 6 years. It seems like just yesterday that Katie and I were sending him off.
I am thankful for those years we spent as a Marine Corps family, and I am so incredibly proud of my fellow wives who are still out there holding it all together.
to my sister in law – I am amazed by your strength, you are amazing and you are going to do great!