the one about the couples quiz

So as I mentioned before, Jake and I started a couples class at our church. Its a 6 week long “nearly-wed/newly wed” class.  It is great, I am glad we are doing it.  Some drawbacks – we are at least 8-10 years older than every other couple in there.  We are looking at marriage #2, and they are all looking at their 1 and only.  Believe me when I say, we don’t wish divorce on anyone – but we are both glad we are divorced and found each other.  We have a different outlook on things I think.

Before the class started, we had to take this assessment/quiz thingy (yes thingy is the technical term for it).  I took mine one week, and Jake took his a week later.  We didn’t discuss anything on it, I didn’t tell him what was going to be on it.  We just took it and waited.  And waited some more, since our first Sunday school class meeting was just a breakfast & ice breaker meeting.  We had to wait a whole other week to get to the 1st part of the assessment.  

So that week came, and it was on communication.  Jake likes to point out that we started talked on January 15th and haven’t stopped since.   So it was no surprise that when we got the assessment back for that first part, we answered all but 1 thing the same.  Our answers were identical.  We did a little exercise in class on active listening.  We had some homework to do over the week, and once or twice did call each other out for not paying attention.  I called him out once when he was watching golf and trying to facetime me at the same time (it wasn’t working well).   It really does change things when you are conscious about making that effort to really listen.

pray about itThis past week was on conflict resolution.  Again, no surprise there that we scored a 100 on it.  We had one thing we answered differently (which was mostly just interpreting the question differently).  We do not fight.  We have had one minor disagreement (that I don’t think actually counts).  We talk things out (see above paragraph…ha!).  One of our leaders sat down with us and said “how’s it going” and Jake said “we don’t argue” and I followed up with “we have both been married before, which is a blessing in terms of knowing what we do and don’t want to do”.  We sort of talked about our scores then got our homework for the week.  

Homework for the week – say a one sentence pray for each other WITH each other every night.  I think this might be my new favorite bedtime routine.

 

lately.

Its been almost a month since I wrote, as I tend to do in that last month of the summer.  We have been super busy, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

So here is a recap of what’s been going on lately!

  • We became members of the Riverbanks Zoo.  We had wanted to take the kids when Jake’s mom came to visit, and we found it was cheaper for us to get a family membership versus getting in for 1 day.  The family membership lets us get in as many times as we want, 1 free admission to the Lights before Christmas at the zoo, and visitors passes for friends or family who come to visit.  I am excited because its good until next summer, so we can visit the botanical gardens during different seasons.
  • G-Mac/Memaw (Jake’s mom) came to visit and meet the kids.  We had a great time, and enjoyed showing her around our home and all our favorite things.  We took her to church with us, which was special to me…because our church is so special to us.  She loved getting to finally meet the kids, and the kids loved her as well.  They did some crafts together while Jake and I were at work, and ended her visit bowling as a family with their “Uncle Robert”
  • Jake and I started a couples class at church.  Its a five week long “enrich and prepare” class, and I am so glad we are doing it.  Its actually called the “newly wed-nearly wed” class (no, we aren’t engaged…yet.)  I really do love our teachers, Rachel and Michael and I am looking forward to learning from them.  We actually have already benefited a little from what we learned just this past Sunday.
  • The kids started school, so pics of that are forthcoming.  Katie is in 10th, Jonathan in 4th and Natalee in 2nd.  This week starts their second full week of school and we are slowly getting the routine down.

Posts coming up – photo dump from Disney and first week of school, more about the class Jake and I are taking, some new recipes we have been trying and of course – college football!
~L

 

a song for saturday

We’ve all been lied to
We’ve all been liars
Nothing’s perfect in this  world
Everybody’s been burned by the fire
Guess I’m learning
That  what breaks you, makes you grow
But I’m not hiding where I’ve been
Gonna  let the light shine in
What I don’t need
Gonna let that, let that, let that go

The above lines are from an old Gary Allen song called “Pieces”.   I always joke that I wish I had a soundtrack to my life, and typically that soundtrack contains country music mainly.  I love that the first lines are “I’ve been broken, torn and scattered” because who hasn’t felt like they were broken at one time or another?  

I know I talk a lot about the last few years before we moved to SC being super hard for my family, and how last fall was a trainwreck for me.  However, the last 7 months I have made a lot of changes, and I guess the “theme” for the year could be change.  This year has been life changing in so many ways, and I am tremendously blessed at all the opportunities that have come my way.  I have an incredible job where I get to work with some of my favorite people in the world.  I have a church that I have grown to love, and I am excited to be an active part of.  The kids and I have Jake, who has changed our world in so many ways.  

Every struggle I’ve been through has brought me to this place, and every piece of me that I gave away has shaped the course of my life.  There is no script, that’s all in God’s hands, but believe me I am going to enjoy this ride and this life he has given me.

Wordy Wednesday – Disney!!

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I am gathering my notes from our Disney trip and will be doing a series of posts about our experience.  I am so excited to share what I have learned!   But for now – here are my kids enjoying meeting Minnie Mouse on the 1st night of our trip at Chef Mickey’s in the Contemporary Resort!

5-4-F: Michigan edition

A week ago today, I was in Michigan – in Ann Arbor – shivering.  I am not cut out for the cold, no matter where I am.  I will say, Michigan was beautiful and I loved every minute of getting to see where Jake was from.


Downtown Detroit – you are beautiful.  I know you have a hidden side, a seedy side and well – the mob, but lets be real – you are beautiful and there are people out there working hard to continue to make you great.  I won’t pretend I understand your obsession with “coneys” (hot dogs), and hockey – but I still liked you a lot.  Plus, you have lots of old yet pretty buildings.

michigan left turnsMichigan left turns – what the hell is this?  Apparently enough people asked, that the Michigan Department of Transportation made a whole website devoted to “What is a Michigan Left“?

This was probably one of the more confusing parts of trying to drive home from the 4th of July party (in the dark).  I think I said “dammit, I have to drive past the road I want to turn on, bust a u-turn and then turn right?”

Apparently its a safer alternative to making left turns, and there is some science behind it.  I still shake my head, its weird to this southern girl.

 

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 Humidity – Michigan had very little of this while we were there.  This in itself is absolutely amazing.  My hair looked amazing.  Case in point to the right.  No humidity = no southern girl curls (aka: frizz monster!).  My hair stayed pretty stick straight most days with just a blow dry and a touch of humidity spray (because habits y’all)

Also, the weather there was pretty much perfect the entire time.  Upper 70’s to lower 80’s everyday, never a day of 90 at all (I’m thinking we never got above 85).  I did get chilly in the early mornings, and late evenings. I’m wearing a pullover in this photo and its probably close to 7pm.

13529040_10210235643831390_8824241320274004140_nAnn Arbor – what I saw of you was pretty.  I am a college football girl, so seeing stadiums makes my heart happy.  This one was no different.  Even if I do look like I’m being held hostage in this photo.  I’m wearing a sweatshirt because it was very windy and I was cold.  There is a lot of maize and blue in this photo, but I guess it is payback for dragging him to the Carolina spring game, and all my non-stop “crap talk” about Clowney.  Jake’s new favorite response to that is #ClowneyGone

There is a rumor we may end up here on Labor Day weekend for the opening game, but the jury is still out on that one.  It would be a LONG drive up and back with the kids. 

 

jake golfRelaxing – getting to see Jake full on relax for the first time in a long time.  No real responsibilities, no work for a few days.  He got to play golf, which he loves to do and doesn’t get to do nearly enough.  He got to see his family and spend a ton of time with them, which he told me several times he was happy about.  I am so glad that we could make this trip happen.

So thanks to all who made our trip so special – lending us a car to use (Clark & Jo), taking us to lunch (Mom!), buying us dinner & taking us on boat rides(Mike & Phyllis), buying Jake his favorite Canadian beer (Tyler), paying for Jake’s round of golf (Uncle Mike).  We love you all, and cannot wait to see you again!

TBT: beachy babies

Throw back from 2011 when we went to Pensacola on a vacation in the camper.  The kids loved it so much, and the beach was beautiful.  Except Natalee didn’t love the 2nd photo moment very much. She was mad because I asked Katie to take Natalee’s cup from her so we could get a nice photo.  Nice photos didn’t happen.

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Currently

ANTICIPATING – trip to Disney in 11 days,  Jake’s final court date for his divorce in 9 days.

CLEANING – nothing yet.

DEALING – with lack of social interaction.  summers at USC are slow!

EATING – nothing yet, lunch is spaghettios, dinner tonight will be tacos!

FEELING – like I can lay my head down and sleep.

HOPING – that my oils team continues to grow, and progress.  I love seeing people helping others!

PLANNING – date nights, weekend dinners.

READING – Camelot’s Court: Inside the Kennedy White House

WATCHING – not much lately at all.  TV stays off more than its on.

WEARING -black pants, orange tank & a light cardigan.  Its 105 outside, but its maybe 65 in our building.

Happy July 4th!

We are flying home from Michigan today – sad to be leaving our family there, but excited to be getting home to get our babies!   Here is a flashback from 2010 of our three!  So tiny, and so blond!  

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Blogger Men Tell All – June

Its that time again – time for Jake to have his say!  Of course, since he had such short answers, my comments are in italics.

  • If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would you go and why?
    Scotland, the home of golf!!   (of course this is the answer, but also I think he would say anywhere sunny, he especially wants to go play at TPC Sawgrass in Florida (below), and take me to Sandals in the Bahamas).   sawgrass1

 

  • What is your favorite summer treat?
    Ice Cream  (currently, there are 3 quarts of ice cream in our freezer – Mint Chocolate Chip, Cookies & Cream, and Strawberry Cheesecake).
  • Do you have a favorite song that says “summer” to you? What is it?
    Not really, but Kid Rock’s “All Summer Long” is a good one and “Somewhere on a Beach”
    Fun fact: Kid Rock is from Michigan and got his start there.

  • What summer project are you hoping to accomplish before fall?
    Well my backyard would be one, but it might be fall. Because is WAY too hot now.
    We did manage to plant some flowers out front, and clean up the front flower beds.  We have some dead bushes in his back yard we need to take care of.   At my house, my front flower beds need taken care of too.
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