So as I mentioned before, Jake and I started a couples class at our church. Its a 6 week long “nearly-wed/newly wed” class. It is great, I am glad we are doing it. Some drawbacks – we are at least 8-10 years older than every other couple in there. We are looking at marriage #2, and they are all looking at their 1 and only. Believe me when I say, we don’t wish divorce on anyone – but we are both glad we are divorced and found each other. We have a different outlook on things I think.
Before the class started, we had to take this assessment/quiz thingy (yes thingy is the technical term for it). I took mine one week, and Jake took his a week later. We didn’t discuss anything on it, I didn’t tell him what was going to be on it. We just took it and waited. And waited some more, since our first Sunday school class meeting was just a breakfast & ice breaker meeting. We had to wait a whole other week to get to the 1st part of the assessment.
So that week came, and it was on communication. Jake likes to point out that we started talked on January 15th and haven’t stopped since. So it was no surprise that when we got the assessment back for that first part, we answered all but 1 thing the same. Our answers were identical. We did a little exercise in class on active listening. We had some homework to do over the week, and once or twice did call each other out for not paying attention. I called him out once when he was watching golf and trying to facetime me at the same time (it wasn’t working well). It really does change things when you are conscious about making that effort to really listen.
This past week was on conflict resolution. Again, no surprise there that we scored a 100 on it. We had one thing we answered differently (which was mostly just interpreting the question differently). We do not fight. We have had one minor disagreement (that I don’t think actually counts). We talk things out (see above paragraph…ha!). One of our leaders sat down with us and said “how’s it going” and Jake said “we don’t argue” and I followed up with “we have both been married before, which is a blessing in terms of knowing what we do and don’t want to do”. We sort of talked about our scores then got our homework for the week.
Homework for the week – say a one sentence pray for each other WITH each other every night. I think this might be my new favorite bedtime routine.