I am so blessed to have a huge group of amazing friends across this country.  As I have gotten older, I have learned to surround myself with the people that make me laugh constantly. the giggles that turn into tears streaming down your face. They make me a better person, because they push me to do my best, even when I don’t want to. They are the people who reach out when I need something.  In turn, I strive to be that friend to others as well, fiercely loyal and genuine.  Keep the ones who do that, and let everyone else just walk on through.



Friday Styles

Cents of Style is back with a sale on scarves!

 I don’t know about you, but around here its been ridiculously cold this week.  My scarf, headband and gloves are a must!   So be sure to check out these deals, with scarves starting at $4.98!





#TBT – 2.5 kids

A cute little throwback from Christmas 2008.  I was pregnant with Natalee, and the kids wanted to take a photo with Santa.  We were at their dads company Christmas party at an inflatable jump place.  Santa was “Santa-Bruce” (one of their dads coworkers).


the most freeing thing

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Such a small word, a simple word – but also..a hard word, one full of chaos and tears and heartache. Chances are, everyone has someone they need to forgive.   The word itself is mentioned in the bible roughly 116 times, depending on the translation.  At the heart of it, is something so consuming, so raw.  It takes so much for us to forgive people, but why?  Forgiveness is an amazing, freeing moment that will bring peace in a way you never expected.

I spent most of last fall angry and sad with the relationship I was in.  It wasn’t a good place, or a healthy place.  I put on a happy face, and went about everyday because I was in love.  Love fixes everything right?  I resented so many things and situations that occurred.  I wondered how our relationship was ever going to survive this “mess” we were in.  The cancelled dates, the missed plans, the time apart.  We were drowning, and I was drowning in so much anger.  We went our separate ways and that anger stayed.  How could he do this to me, what in the hell did I ever do?  I did nothing but fight for him, for our relationship, I was amazing to him.  He and the kids were my life, hands down, I planned my life around them all.  Then suddenly, it was gone and that anger remained.

We started attending Shandon Baptist in December.  Shortly after first visit, the pastor did a sermon on forgiveness.  And I swear to you, God basically smacked me upside the head and yelled “SEE?!?!?  This is what you need”.  That God, such a kidder.  I wasn’t ready for it.  I can’t forgive him, I’m too mad.  Then another sermon came that touched on forgiveness, and again – God smacked me upside the head.  I finally said, “Ok, Ok God, I get it.”

I prayed about it, I cried about it, and then I forgave.  Most importantly, I let that person know “I forgive you”.  My final act of loving him was forgiving him and letting him go. I didn’t do it because I felt the behavior was right or ok.  I did it for me.  I cannot move on with this life, and then go into a new relationship holding onto that anger.    That night after I told him, I slept like a rock for the first time in months.  That anger, resentment and sadness wasn’t weighing me down anymore.   It was gone and I was free.

Such a powerful thing, literally one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself.


This is amazing grace…

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I am so obsessed with this song now.  We sang it at church on Sunday with our phenomenal worship team, and it touched my heart so much.  Its playing as I am writing posts, on repeat because its that good and of course I’m singing along.  

Play with

Legos, Lego’s everywhere.  Every parent knows the horror (and pain) of stepping on a wayward lego.  I am pretty sure its a parenting right of passage.  Lego’s are a favorite here in our house, Star Wars & Minecraft especially.  Its great because they encourage kids to build and use their imaginations to create beautiful things.  They keep my kids occupied for hours (which is great sometimes!).2016-01-31 (1)

However, with all those lego sets comes…legos everywhere.  Literally my living room this weekendlooked like the photo to the right. Minecraft on the entertainment center by the TV, and this lovely LegoCity jet & transport truck by the cat’s scratching post.  On the floor, half buried under backpacks and butted up against the cats toy.

My son puts them together, and doesn’t want to take them apart.  What do you do with them?  Shelf in the bedroom to display them?  Let him decorate your living room with crazily colored creations?  For us, we have a few of the “cube organizer baskets” in our living room on a shelf.  They stay in there.  This is for safety reasons above (see the 2nd sentence above), and because our cat loves to play with stuff, and in a heartbeat she will knock it off a shelf because well, she’s a cat and sometimes cats are just rude.  He sometimes gets bored with the legos he has, because he doesn’t know what to build.   I think sometimes they get overwhelmed with the choices.

Kid Photo Shoot 8_15-470Speaking of Lego’s…I was recently introduced to Pley, and I think it is an amazing concept.  Pley allows you to rent toys (such as Lego building sets and K’Nex) for a month or so, play with them and return.  What a concept!  Its
environmentally friendly, by recycling toys but also, gives kids more variety when it comes to what they can play with.   How much fun would it be for your kids to get fun mail every month with a new Lego set?  I can imagine that my kids would love it, they adore getting mail!    Pley has ever imaginable Lego creation, from Disney to Star Wars and even Lone Ranger legos!  I didn’t even know that there were play sets with the Lone Ranger.  Jonathan is obsessed with the Lone Ranger movie!  I definitely foresee him loving those sets!

Another good thing about Pley, is that once they are delivered and the kids play with them, you can ship them back with a convenient prepaid label and await the next item on your “Pleylist”.  Prices for this great concept start at $19.99 a month.  With parents spending an average of $1000 on toys (according to their website), this is a great way to get some variety in your kids playtime, and reduce waste and clutter in your home.


Disclosure:  This is a paid campaign through Jessica Rosenberg Consulting.  All opinions about products and services are mine.  Some affiliate links may be contained within this post.

25 things….

1)Do you always answer your phone?
No, sometimes I don’t hear it.  If you want to get a hold of me quick, text me, its easier.

2) It’s four in the morning and you get a text message, who is it?
It better be an emergency no matter who it is.  Unless its my brother deployed, and then its probably because of the time difference.  OR its Kathleen, because 4am my time is 1am her time and she is drunk in a bar in California.

3) If you could change your eye color what would it be?
deep green

4) What flavor do you add to your drink at Sonic?
cherry, but only to dr. pepper

5) What kind of car do you have?
Honda Odyssey

6) Have you ever had a pet fish?

7) Favorite Christmas song?
Rocking around the Christmas Tree

8) What’s on your wish list for your birthday?
jewelry, flowers, spa gift card

9) Can you do push ups?

10) Can you do a chin up?

11) Does the future make you more nervous or excited

12) Do you have any saved texts?
yep, a dozen or so

13) Ever been in a car wreck?

14) Do you have an accent?
Yes, southern

15) What is the last song to make you cry?
If you are reading this (Tim McGraw) at work on Thursday

16) Plans tonight?
laundry, blogging, Master Chef Jr!

17) Have you ever felt like you hit rock bottom?

18) Name 3 things you bought in the last week
gas, Starbucks before church and Chick-Fil-A biscuits for my work study students

19) Have you ever been given roses?
before Christmas from a friend trying to cheer me up, before that it was 2003.  

20) Current worry?
none actually

21) Current hate right now?
how cold my feet are!

22) Met someone who changed your life?
Several people

23) How did you bring in the New Year?
watching the ball drop with my furry nephew Tanner at my brothers house.

24) What song represents you?
Sin Wagon (Dixie Chicks)

25) Do you & your significant other have a song?
Nope…not yet at least.  =)

This post is brought to you by Chase Bryant….

the art of being random

So I went on a date last night.  It wasn’t a first date, it was a 2nd date.  It was amazing, and fun and a 3rd (4th, 5th, etc) will happen soon.   But somewhere between ordering drinks and the restaurant closing (yes, we were there that late), I realized how incredibly random I am.  This is well established fact that I tend to be random, I even mention it on my blogs about me page.

Of course the conversation ranged from funny work stories (from us both), to college football (a favorite topic), to what its like to date someone with kids versus someone without.   I call it, the art of being random.  A friend told me its the art of carrying on a conversation that naturally leads from one place to another.   It was strange to have a conversation that flowed like that.   I’m sure that I talk too much, tell too many ridiculous stories – but he didn’t seem to mind, and in fact seemed ok with just listening.  Either that or he couldn’t wait to get out of there (but judging by the fact that he called me this morning on the way to work, I’m going to go with he was cool with it).

Whether its the art of being random, or the art of carrying on a conversation, I don’t know.  I don’t mind being random.  An ex of mine once told me that I could carry on a conversation with a brick wall.  I think he is sort of an ass for saying that, BUT…he is right.  I love people, and love talking to people. I love listening to stories, as it gives you a glimpse into a persons life.   Whether its talking about the academic scandals that rocked UNC’s athletics department or what I ate for breakfast this morning – I can flow from one thing to another.

So here’s to the art of being random.



its all in the Bouqs

Attention all guys – early prep for Valentines.  If you get it done NOW, you won’t be waiting until last minute to get it done.  Early birds get the worm, or in this case – early shoppers get the most beautiful flowers!

jpg (1) is one of my most favorite sites for purchasing fresh, beautiful flowers!   I was lucky enough to receive some California tea roses before Christmas from a friend who thought I needed a cheering up.  There were roughly 45 roses in the bouquet (they have differect size boutlets to chose from).  They were a vibrant orange color, and so delicate.  They also smelled out of this world amazing.

They were delivered by FedEx, and come packaged in a large box.  You have to put the arrangement together yourself, but I easily did it with the help of a coworker.  The arrangement came with a large mason jar as a vase.  Too cute. has an amazing selection of other types of flowers, from simple to exotic.  They have volcano roses, which are stunning, and even simple tulips.   My favorites will always be peachy-pink to peachy-orange roses.  Hands down, always my favorites.  Granted, in my life I can count on 1 hand the number of times I have been given flowers in my adult life.  Getting them delivered at work was an amazing experience, they made the office so pretty!

Here is a selection of their beautiful flowers that I adore the most!


Click on the banner of flowers above and get $20 off your first order!  Who doesn’t love a good deal?

**note, this is not a paid post for – I really do adore their flowers and wanted to get something write up so all those last minute Valentines gifts buyers could get a jump on it!**




ANTICIPATING – whether we will actually wake up to a dusting of snow tomorrow

DRINKING – dr.pepper

EATING – just had some delicious Publix sushi (I need a sushi date soon!!)

FEELING – tired, having a kid home sick who threw up on my bed last night, led me to not get a great nights sleep

LISTENING – to commercials on TV and Jonathan talking

PLANNING – blog posts for the next week

READING – the 3rd book in the new series I found, this book is called Murder On the House

THINKING – about all sorts of things, my brain is a little scattered today

TRYING – to stay warm, its so flipping cold outside!

WAITING – on laundry, seem to always be waiting on the laundry….LOL

WATCHING – Master Chef Junior with Jonathan.  This show stresses me out.  I’m rooting for Zac.

WEARING – yoga pants & a long sleeved tshirt, and socks (cause mama doesn’t like cold toes!)

What are you up to lately?